Older women especially mothers of young adult women definitely have trouble getting their heads around younger women and older men relationships.
But what about an age difference of say ten years only.
“Younger women often seek the companionship of older men for many reasons.
It’s not just about the common denominator of what people think.
Christopher Ryan of Psychology Today argues – in direct response to Schwyzer – that there’s an “innate biological desire men hold for women in their most fertile years,” and that such a desire is perfectly natural.
We’ve all heard this idea before: men are designed to want to spread their seed, so in spite of their age and inability with age to care for children, they remain attracted to women who can propagate their DNA.When I was 25, I married a man 12 years older than me.At the time, our relationship seemed perfectly natural to me.We at malenirvana have spent some time researching this question of morality with 40yrs something males and 20 yrs – 24yrs something females the younger women older men scenario.The conclusion is that young women like older men because the relationship comes with benefits – lots of them.He says, “If there’s one tangible thing that men can do to help end sexism—and create a healthier culture in which young people come of age—it’s to stop chasing after women young enough to be their biological daughters.” Schwyzer goes on to say, “As hyperbolic as it may sound, there are few more powerful actions that men can take to transform the culture than to date, mate, and stay with their approximate chronological peers.If aging guys would commit to doing this, everyone would benefit: older men and younger men, older women and younger women.” There’s no doubt that not everyone will agree with Schwyzer on this, especially not other middle-aged men.Doesn’t make much sense having children in your mid to late 50’s.But then that depends on the man and the woman involved. I’d always felt pretty mature for my age (as so many women do), and especially in comparison to the guys around me.I stayed married to my husband for seven years, and by the time our relationship ended, I saw our age difference in a completely different way.