The situation faced by many expats is that they don't mind paying, because they understand that the girl cannot afford some expenses that are clearly part of the "expat lifestyle".However, they do not want to be considered as cash cows or walking ATMs.
Add to that the expat compensation package, the maid, the driver and the cheap flights to Bali and you have everything a man could dream of: Big pay, no chores, hot girls.
On the contrary, life is hard on expat wives or worse, on single women.
Religion: This is the second most important topic when dating an Indonesian girl because few of them will make a compromise about it.
If you are catholic and no ready to adapt, then you will have some troubles finding an Indonesian girl who suits you.
Thank God (or unfortunately) most of them don’t see what is happening behind their backs.
Among the expats that I know, I can tell you that 90% of them, married or not, have had an affair or cheated on their girlfriends with an Indonesian girl at least once.But the "love" of an Indonesian girl is nonetheless quite interesting as well: It involves a lot of respect and expectations that are different. It will probably take you years to see how beautiful your relationship really is. Money, Religion, Age Gap and Cultural differences, these are the 4 main difficulties most expats have when dating a girl in Indonesia. Working out these differences will teach you a lot of valuable lessons and you will learn to understand another culture which is just as fascinating as yours.The thing you have to understand is: What does your girlfriend mean when she tells you "I love you". Western Love is a luxury that people can afford only after they've reached a certain level of security. It may not be a problem at the beginning, but soon, some issues will appear: Who needs to pay for the restaurant?For the plane ticket to Bali when you go on holidays?How do you arrange her coming to your home country?Should you help her when she or a member of her family gets sick, and to what extent?It can be very uncomfortable for a girl to have everything paid for her, without being able to give something back.By going to less expensive restaurants, you give her the opportunity to treat you as well.