The vast majority of dangerous, abusive and violent behaviour that occurs in the privacy of people's homes is committed by men against women. Violence against women is now recognised to be a serious and widespread problem in Australia with enormous individual and community impacts and social costs1.
(2015) Violence against women: Additional analysis of the Australian Bureau of Statistics’ Personal Safety Survey 2012, Horizons Research Report, Issue 1, Australia’s National Research Organisation for Women’s Safety (ANROWS), Sydney; and Woodlock, D., Healey, L., Howe, K., Mc Guire, M., Geddes, V. (2014) Voices against violence paper one: Summary report and recommendations, Women with Disabilities Victoria, Office of the Public Advocate and Domestic Violence Resource Centre Victoria. 1-6; Statistics Canada (2003) Family violence in Canada: A statistical profile 2003, Canadian Centre for Justice Statistics, Ministry of Justice, Canada. National Crime Prevention (2001) Young people and domestic violence: National research on young people’s attitudes and experiences of domestic violence, Crime Prevention Branch, Commonwealth Attorney-General’s Department, Canberra; and Cox (2015), see note 2.
Australian Bureau of Statistics (2013), Australian Bureau of Statistics (2013) Personal Safety, Australia 2012, Cat. 4906.0, Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS), Canberra. 124, Australian Institute of Criminology, Canberra, pp. Survey extrapolated to population figures on the basis of 3.8% of all women surveyed reporting having experienced physical or sexual violence from a non-partner in the past 12 months (and approximately 9 million women over the age of 18 in Australia).
One man, a friend from childhood, told a story that seemed like a kind of slow emotional torture. Her wit was now more often than not turned on him, first as sarcastic jibes and then as outright abuse.
When he met his future wife ten years ago, he was captivated by her beauty, but also by her wicked sense of humor and ability to intelligently cut others, mostly pop culture figures, down to size. She complained that he didn’t make enough money, and soon he felt like nothing he did was enough.
In 2012, 17% of all women and 5% of men had experienced violence by a partner since the age of 15. (1999) Femicide: An overview of major findings, No.
(2015) Everyday sexism: Australian women’s experiences of street harassment, The Australia Institute, Canberra.
While she complains about spending money on him all the time, you can’t help but notice that he is paying for all of her drinks. It’s well-documented when men inflict it on female victims. While the emotional abuse of women is discussed on , in bestsellers, and everywhere in pop culture and in academia, there are virtually no resources for men who have been emotionally abused. Books on the subject are mostly broadsides that have not been properly researched and substitute academic rigor for attacks on feminism.
By the end of the night she is berating him outright, and as they exit the restaurant, the woman is in a full rage spiral, yelling about something unrelated to anything that has happened in the last three hours. And yet every person I know—and I’m betting everyone reading these words—knows a man who has been victimized by emotional abuse. I did just that recently when I was researching the epidemic of men and suicide, and what I found was disturbing.
A punch to the face leaves obvious proof, evidence to use with the police to put the assailant behind bars.
Emotional abuse, which men can tolerate and excuse away as normal, can go on for years, leaving a person weak, desperate, and profoundly suicidal. On the other side of the political spectrum, conservatives tend to scream that feminism is to blame when the discussion of abusive women comes up.