To begin my term I wanted to take a moment and reflect back on the amazing seminar that just concluded.
The hard work and dedication that it took from our outgoing President, Phil Hess, to create the outstanding schedule that we all enjoyed is truly unimaginable.
For those of you who were not able to attend the WSJC please consider this as your first official invitation to attend CSDIAI’s 2019 Annual Educational Seminar, located in the beautiful San Francisco Bay Area.
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I'm getting so many emails from people who are dating a widow/widower and aren't sure what to do.
So since many of them popped in here first to find out more, I thought I'd post some "rules" if you will to help you through the process.1. One person said that a widower lost his wife 2 months ago but seems interested in her now.On the other hand, if you find the widow/widower is constantly talking about their late spouse, then he/she may not be ready to date and you may just want to consider a friendship.My dad died when I was young and my stepfather never told my mom to not talk about him, visit the cemetery or take pictures down. He understood the situation and realized that my dad wasn't going to come back into the picture.5. If children are involved, they may still be grieving and even though their mom/dad has a new boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't mean that the children are going to be so accepting. It's an adjustment for the children and it needs to be respected.If you are dating or planning to marry a widow or widower, here are some suggestions and thoughts to consider.LEARN ALL ABOUT GRIEF Do some research about grief, read books and talk to others in similar situations.I'm sure I'm going to be adding to this list as I go on, but this is a start.Maybe it will help those who write me to sort out some issues.I hope that all of you who attended the Western States Joint Conference (WSJC) absorbed as many lectures and workshops that you could throughout the week; the lineup of speakers were incredible.The combined efforts from all involved individuals were unrelenting, and I sincerely hope that your experiences as attendees have encouraged each one of you to continue to attend future seminars.Sometimes it's hard whether or not you're ready to date again until you're in a relationship so they might realize it afterward.7. If your boyfriend/girlfriend has suddenly become withdrawn, sad, reclusive, angry, etc., the grief monster (as I used to call it) might have made a return visit in a much harsher way.Try talking to him/her about it and if you can't, see if there is a close friend of him/her you can talk to about it.