All the time I’m running into guys who tell me things like “I’m 36, but I look 30, so I tell women I’m 29.” Less often, though still regularly, I see guys in their 30s and even 40s who try to dress, act, and talk like men in their 20s.In extreme cases these guys invade the clubs or college campuses to hit on younger women where they often look woefully out of place.The good news is that the world is filled with super hot Type 2s and Type 3s, and I’m talking about what most men would consider 9s and 10s. Whenever I go out on a first date with a VYW, not only do I the older man aspect.
Younger women, even Type 2s, are hypersensitive about creepy older men, as well they should be (for their own safety reasons).
Instead of being a creepy older guy, you need to be a confident, especially if you’re talking over texts, online, or in a public place, and/or if you have not established clear rapport yet. I see way too many older guys who do have chances with younger women completely blow it by being too creepy, too verbally sexual, way too fast.
The older man / younger women stuff also generally applies to any man who is hitting up any woman of legal age who is more than 10 years younger than he is.
(Since men hitting up women within one to nine years younger is considered “normal” by society in most cases.) So in a way, a 45 year old man working with a 26 year old woman would apply here, even though she’s technically not a VYW.
…except older guys trying to hit up much younger women. If you’re older and she’s much younger, you need to be non-creepy.
If you start talking about how hot her boobs are or tell her how you “can’t wait to get her back to your place”, she’s going to vanish fast, even if she’s a Type 2.That doesn’t mean you cross the line, but it does mean you are very aggressive, and err on the side of “creepy” rather than “nice guy”.This is very, very good advice, I do this myself, and I recommend it to all men across the board…Younger women is a topic I haven’t discussed here in a while. If you’re much younger than 30 you’re welcome to read on if you’re curious, since this is something that will be affecting you in a few years. ), younger women have become such a normal and regular part of my life, I no longer consider it something unique or interesting enough to talk about. Since we’re talking about much younger women here, this article is really geared towards men over age 30 or so.So I dress a little classier, talk a little slower, drop the energy level down just a little, talk more about the wisdom I’ve learned over the years, and exhibit other older-guy behaviors.In other words, all the things you would never do if you were on a date with an over-33 woman (because then she’ll shove you in Make Him Wait zone).By “much younger women” I’m usually talking about VYW, which I define as women between the age of 18 and 23.There are three types of VYW: By “older men” I’m talking about men between the ages of 30 and 49 or so, though men in their 50s who have followed my advice and taken care of themselves physically certainly apply also.This means that when you’re escalating on a woman, you need to push the envelope.Even if you think she might consider what you’re doing “creepy”, you need to go for it.